The Friendship Series: Making a new friend
I came up with a few little things that I think will help start a conversation with a potential new friend and then help drive that 'meeting' to a friendship that, hopefully, will be long lasting.
1. Take time to think up interesting facts about yourself and overtime you introduce yourself to some, include a fun fact about you that you think would be relatable to person you are meeting. For example, if I happened to meet a music DJ who has been playing a lot of old school music, I would say "you know, the music from the late 90s and early 2000s always sound so good in my ears. hi. My nam is Tobe". That way, I have opened the way for us to start a conversation about old music vs new music. By the time we have that conversation, chances are that we would have been able to decide if we want to hang out again.
2. Pay compliments. These are fail safe conversation starters...do not bite on the words...compliment an outfit, an accessory, a meal choice...anything.
3. When you are going out to a social event or a place where you are sure to meet several people, go with the intention to socialise not the intention to take cool pictures for instagram. Focus first on creating real memories and then capture a few of the moments for keepsakes.
4. Wear a smile, dress well, be clean. Nothing puts a person off more than a smelly body, mouth or foot. Make sure you are clean and appropriately dressed for the occasion. And the importance of a cheery smile can not be overemphasised....while trying to make a new friend, you "resting bitch face" needs to take a back seat.
So, I have got 4 points...you can add yours.
I will try to meet new people and start up proper friendships...I hope you will to.
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ReplyDelete"Not everyone you meet is meant to be your friend"....That is so true.Sometimes,studying someone goes a long way to creating a very solid friendship.It'll help you to know the kind of person you are about to make friend. (If you have someone specific in mind ).Knowing something about them will help you to know the kind of things they treasure. Thereby,providing you with the best knowledge of what gift is best to surprise them with.For example: A camera man will not easily forget you if you surprise him with a camcorder (it goes with compliment for What he does )..Entirely my view though.
ReplyDeleteAlso,find out the happiest moment in a "friend-to-be"'s life. Like birthday, wedding anniversary,etc...Celebrate that moment with them without their knowledge;and when you present your gifts to them, they'll be like "aw,this is lovely!.. How did you know it was my....... "...something might start from there!