How long should you be hung up on your Ex?
I have been accused of having inhumanly low levels of empathy and as much as I feel like I should tender a polite apology for somethings I will write here, I really do not care at this moment. If I start to care, I will update the post.
So you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and through some unfortunate event of life, it doesn't work out. You go your separate ways.
Life throws in one extra and makes the parts of your life twirl in different directions. In my experience, that in itself makes it easier to move on.
So when you have moved on and you are happy with the choices you have made in life, how long will it take you to accept that you and "the one you loved to the skies and beyond" just did not work out? How long will it take for you to stop pinning over something that never was? 3 years? 5 years? 10?
I think it is ridiculous to have an EX who you are still hung up on for so long and too timid, embarrassed, insecure or plain stupid to chase after and win back. You end up having short conversations that always revolve around how you miss them and wish them well, which are tainted by the subliminal extreme sadness you channel with your tone and mannerisms. You are so hung up that you are not able to see past your 'love' for this individual and start to appreciate the individual for who they have become. And in turn, that person (especially if it's a person like me), will mentally lock you in a space where the only emotion expressible is pity.
Why would you do that to yourself?
I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting an ex back but if you do, say so in clear terms. If you don't, then get over what was in your relationship and all the mushiness that comes with that. And do it sooner than later.
Because the heading says "how long...", I think a year is fair. Maybe two, if you are overly sensitive. After that, you have single handedly inducted yourself into the league of pity party EXs.
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Some ex can never be forgotten. Tobe that's true.
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yes. but remembering them is not the same as being hung up on them
DeleteHehehehehe...gbam!!! Person talk b4 say 'I am responsible for what I write, not what you understand'! No damn given, no offense taken!!!
ReplyDeleteI sha believe relationships are like vehicles somewhat...u definitely get 'signs' b4 a total 'throw-way-you-for-road' breakdown! As ma mechanic talk...listen to d moto and change oil regular, plus of course d normal fuel and wash u dey do, e no go disappoint. Ditto for relationships. If d moto con reach where na to change engine today, tire tomorrow, ma people na to find new one buy o!!!
Meanwhile..."...individual for ho they have become..."...A little typo on ur part sweets!
Love ur POV!!!
thanks you...edited :)
DeleteYou know what aunty Tobe? It can take 1,2 or.3 years to stop hunging up on your Ex depending on your type of person , but the fact remains that if you believe and see that the relationship is not meant to be, you've got no other option than to move on.Yeah we all know "Ladies" if truly we love the guy in question, we intent to give too much and when it gets sour we become heartbroken that we can't let go and move on. There are so many factors contributing to this hunging up onto an Ex, Low self esteem,the fear of not finding someone like him or her and the fear to start all over again (time wasted)
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