The first blessing of marriage is children?

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I stumbled upon a recording that helps couples prepare for marriage. It is something recommended by a church, for people who are about to wed, I think. I wasn't paying attention to it but I heard a line, where the instructor said "Chidren are the 1st blessing of Marriage" and that struck a chord. 

I don't agree with this thought and I believe that the ideology, may be the reason a lot of couples, who would, other wise be happily married, spend so much time, being sad and angry and disappointed, when they spend years trying to conceive a child. 

Don't get me wrong, I firmly believe that children are a gift from God and the ability to raise a child and raise that child right, is a grace heaven gives. However, marriage in itself, is a blessing - one that is full and complete, with or without a child. 

Consider the part of the bible that says - "The two shall become one"

For me, that signifies that the first blessing of marriage, is the union of two souls. It is the life long agreement to be a part of another person and form one unit. Yes, that unit extends when a child comes, but that unit, on it's own, should be full and complete. 

For this reason, I say that the choice to marry must not naturally lead to the choice to have children. I say also, that a married couple without a child, is not lacking their first blessing - they already gained it by joining their souls.